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CHRISTMAS GIFT GUIDE: TIME FOR GIFTS WITH MEANING

What to give everyone.

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  • The Field Basket in Natural, $199, wornstore.com.au
    288
  • Le Lien Bone Beach Towel, $240, theavalonandco.com
    388
  • Mercer & Lewis Hygeia Mini $159, mercerandlewis.com
    488
  • Pool towel in tabac and noir, $130, shopbaina.com
    588
  • Merci Maison Jacques Matte black candle stick holders, Set of 3, $160, mercimaison.com
    688
  • Gucci extra small pet-collar, $560, gucci.com.au
    788
  • Pet interlocking G horse bit bowl, $880, gucci.com.au
    888
  • Maison Francis Kurkdjian Baccarat Rouge Body Oil $124, mecca.com.au
    988
  • Vintage Wabi Lamp, $549, eucanhome.com.au
    1088
  • Le Lien Scarf, $160, theavalonandco.com
    1188
  • AROMATISK Serving stand, gold-colour, $19, ikea.com.au
    1288
  • Giambattista Valli Home Porcelain Lemon Box $235, modaoperandi.com
    1388
  • VÅRDANDE Basket with handles, natural $19, ikea.com.au
    1488
  • Splash Terry Kids Robe in Ocean, $75, grownshop.com
    1588
  • FULLTALIG Candlestick, set of 3, black $19, ikea.com
    1688
  • Flour and Stone Chocolate Cake, $80, flourandstone.com.au
    1788
  • Slip scrunchie ornament $32, mecca.com.au
    1888
  • Stoneware Salt & Pepper Set $24.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    1988
  • Mercer and Lewis Aphrodite Amphora Pot $349, mercerandlewis.com
    2088
  • Diptyque Candle Stick Holder, $79, mecca.com.au
    2188
  • Cire Trudon Louis XIV Bust Candle, $414, libertineparfumerie.com.au
    2288
  • Hommey Charcoal Robe, $129, gethommey.com
    2388
  • Pool towel in cedar and sand, $130, shopbaina.com
    2488
  • Blanca 'Dillon' Shirt in Rust White, $269, blanca.com.au
    2588
  • Sol de Janeiro Brazilian Crush Cheirosa '68 Perfume Mist $30, mecca.com.au
    2688
  • KÅSEBERGA Cool basket, bamboo $45, ikea.com.au
    2788
  • SOLDRÄNKT Champagne bowl, stainless steel, 22 cm, $49, ikea.com.au
    2888
  • Dusen Dusen Grapefruit Stripe Bathrobe, $210.00, harrolds.com.au
    2988
  • Pool towel in maroon and butter, $130, shopbaina.com
    3088
  • Cotton Canvas Cushion Cover $9.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    3188
  • Diptyque Baies Taper Candle $46, mecca.com.au
    3288
  • FRAME + Ritz Paris embroidered velvet slippers $260, net-a-porter.com
    3388
  • Zara Cropped Linen Overshirt, $99.95, zara.com.au
    3488
  • Loewe Anagram leather and canvas-jacquard cardholder $415, net-a-porter.com
    3588
  • Le Lien Whisky Beach Towel, $240, theavalonandco.com
    3688
  • Tropics Bamboo Salad Servers, $54.95, indigolove.com.au
    3788
  • DayAway Park Hyatt Sydney 'The Spa Organic Facial', $208 per person, mydayaway.com
    3888
  • Cartier Tank Jumbo Large L.C Classic Railway, $5,456.36, 1stdibs.com
    3988
  • VÅRDANDE Basket with handle, natural, 20cm $15, ikea.com.au
    4088
  • Ritual Latte Cup in Seamist, $12.95, indigolove.com.au
    4188
  • Moroccan Handmade Raffia Table Lamps $97, etsy.com.au
    4288
  • Zara Satin Tunic Dress, $109, zara.com.au
    4388
  • Oroton Luna Letter Necklace $89.95, oroton.com
    4488
  • Ball Cushion in White Marle Boucle from $110.00, etsy.com.au
    4588
  • Stripe Linen Blend Tablecloth $34.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    4688
  • Flamingo Estate Euphoria Body Scrub $90, mecca.com.au
    4788
  • Boho Straw Pendant Lamp 50cm, $112.13, etsy.com.au
    4888
  • "COMPLEMENTING NATURE" by Rayn Jermain, $340, thedesignhunter.com.au
    4988
  • PENNFISK Basket, natural sedge/handmade oval $7, ikea.com.au
    5088
  • Miguel Castro Leñero, "Giraffe," Ink on handmade Amate paper initialed by Miguel Castro Leñero, 1991, lawsons.com.au
    5188
  • Aegean Urn made from clay, $85, indigolove.com.au
    5288
  • Diptyque Feu De Bois Taper Candle $46, mecca.com.au
    5388
  • Objects of Desire By: Maria Hummer Tuttle Photography by Miguel Flores-Vianna, vendome.com.au
    5488
  • Inside Milan By: Nicolo Castellini Baldissera Photography by Guido Taroni, vendomepress.com.au
    5588
  • Claudette Agate Serving Board, $165, indigolove.com.au
    5688
  • Leo Lamp in Terracotta $279, mcmullinandco.com
    5788
  • Percy Table Lamp $379, mcmullinandco.com
    5888
  • Venetian Gardens By: Monty Don, Published by Penguin, $77, booktopia.com
    5988
  • Chalk Vase Ivory, $155 from The Foundry, www.thefoundry.house
    6088
  • "A NATURAL FLOW", Brian Connolly, $499, thedesignhunter.com.au
    6188
  • Zebra Sand Free Towel Regular price $69.95, sandsociety.com.au
    6288
  • VATTENKRASSE Watering can, ivory/gold-colour, $15, ikea.com.au
    6388
  • King Single, Lola Bed Head in Grey Gum $999, mcmullinandco.com
    6488
  • Putu Vessel in Mottle $119, mcmullinandco.com
    6588
  • G: Forever Green By: Carlos Mota, Published by Vendome, $92, booktopia.com
    6688
  • Wayan Vessel in Mottle $159, mcmullinandco.com
    6788
  • SEDLIG 2-piece salad servers set, stainless steel, $15, ikea.com.au
    6888
  • Ezra Salad Servers $79, mcmullinandco.com
    6988
  • Rose Tarlow Three Houses By: Rose Tarlow, Pyblished by Vendome, $98, booktopia.com
    7088
  • Washed Linen Tablecloth $69.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    7188
  • Westman Atelier Baby Cheeks Blush $72, mecca.com.au
    7288
  • Park Hyatt Sydney 'The Spa Organic Facial', via A My Day Away, $235 per person, mydayaway.com
    7388
  • Zara Linen Coat, $189, zara.com.au
    7488
  • GARNERA Serving stand, two tiers, white $29, ikea.com.au
    7588
  • HAJMAL Glass, patterned clear glass/white, $6/4 pack, ikea.com.au
    7688
  • SOCKERÄRT Vase, yellow, $19, ikea.com.au
    7788
  • Limited Edition Diptyque Lantern For 190g Candle, $124, mecca.com.au
    7888
  • Tropics Bamboo Bottle Opener, $18.95, indigolove.com.au
    7988
  • Waffled Bathrobe $49.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    8088
  • Fringed Blanket $34.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    8188
  • Metal Fruit Bowl $34.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    8288
  • Expression Sculpture, $85, indigolove.com.au
    8388
  • Malibu Handwoven Seagrass Footed Bowl, $99, potterybarn.com.au
    8488
  • Washed Linen Tablecloth $69.99, www2.hm.com/en_au
    8588
  • Scout Salad Servers in Tortoise, $64.95, indigolove.com.au
    8688
  • Marseille Terracotta Pot, $20, indigolove.com.au
    8788
  • "OF MOON AND STARS" Print by Myee Harlow $315, thedesignhunter.com.au
    8888
December 12, 2022

We’re always here to help you find gifts that elicit “you really know me!” enthusiasm, even from the normally taciturn. This year, we aimed higher, aspiring to choose items with such eternal appeal, and of such high quality, that some might become heirlooms—used and loved by both your giftees and subsequent generations.

Find our updated, favourite-ever gifts, featuring the most giftable, truly worth it, in-stock items from our archives that will arrive on time and make sure you read – The Christmas Gift Guide; Beautiful Gift Ideas for Every Budget with ideas if you’re stuck,  and why you might like to consider the non-gift- gift. Plus, ways for your gift to impress. 

Many people are changing their approach to Christmas this holiday season by planning that gifts will be smaller but equally thoughtful. Giftsare an expression of feeling.

To give great gifts, you need to cultivate the ability to step outside yourself and really notice people’s passions, preferences, and personalities.

It’s about: Attention, empathy, and a little bit of espionage.

When it comes to gift-giving, context is everything. We recommend quality over quantity. What feels right this holiday: a return to heirloom-quality presents. If you can buy a more substantial gift for one person rather than buying small gifts for everyone, you can buy a quality item that’s more likely to endure.

Asking people what they want for Christmas can also help, as recipients get something they’ll value rather than a gift that gathers dust or gets tossed. Alternatively, buy experiences, such as a voucher for a day spa or restaurant, for loved ones. Shoppers are taking a close look before buying this season.

As inflation bites, gift-giving is becoming a cautious affair. Many people are changing their approaches to gift-giving this holiday season by reconsidering their budgets.

Buying in bulk is our gift secret: For family members, we plan on giving the same thing to everyone. We’re also giving family and friends good old-fashioned cakes. Because some Christmas Days, only a big wedge of fudgy, fabulous cake will do. The bottom line is quality for us, some things that would outlive this economic situation. We’re also making family gifts do double duty. Case in point: My daughter celebrated a recent birthday so I am combining Christmas and giving her a piece of furniture, for both occasions.

Some of the best gifts we’ve ever received aren’t things. They’re cherished memories.

You don’t necessarily need to buy objects to show appreciation for your friends and family. Overconsumption, as we know, is a major driver of the climate crisis.

Knock down the pay wall 

Movie lovers might appreciate a subscription. We all know the big streaming services. Memberships to museums and gyms might be a good fit, too.

Give an Experience: they tend to be more emotionally evocative

Go out for the evening. There are so many concerts, plays, lectures, book festivals, and other events to attend. Check out the schedule for 2023 at a giftee’s favourite venue, or for the day. The  preference for experiences has continued to grow with DayAway launching in Australia in 2022 – where you can sign up for a spa day, or a high tea or relaxing afternoon by the pool at a top hotel in your city such as Park Hyatt Sydney, The Langham, Sydney, Jackalope Mornington Peninsula, and COMO The Treasury in Perth.

Unpacking the Psychology of Gift-Giving 

Pay attention to the topics that enliven and animate the people on your gift list. Look at the kinds of things they have in their homes and offices, what they wear, the colours they favour, what they take pictures of and what they like to eat and drink.

What makes for a great present?

Pick up not only on people’s joys and delights but also on their burdens and aggravations, and think of gifts that might alleviate those things. If they complain about never having enough free time, steer clear of time-consuming gifts like jigsaw puzzles or 1,000-page books.

Here’s What Not to Do Giving a gift

Especially one you want to make a statement can be a vulnerable experience. That’s why some people get so stressed out giving gifts, because it feels too exposing to express their emotions and like they won’t do it right. People can also have a hard time accepting gifts.

They might subconsciously resent being known in that way, or feel unworthy or even envious because they are not as thoughtful.

How receivers react depends on how secure they feel in themselves and their relationship with the giver. A thoughtful and generous gift can stir up all kinds of conscious and unconscious fears, longings and desires. What does it mean to accept it? Do I now owe the person something? What does it mean for me going forward? Do I need to respond in kind? If I respond in kind, does it mean going to the next level? No wonder some gift givers tend to err on the side of caution and just buy something generic like a scented candle or a gift card, rather than run the risk of going personal and getting it wrong.

The surefire way to give a better gift

If you’re stumped on what to get for somebody, you can always ask. My family and I always keep track of the things we want to receive from one another.  If being surprised is important to the person you’re giving to, try asking for more general guidance, rather than specific suggestions.

People Who Are Good Gift-Givers Always Do This

Maybe the best strategy when it comes to gift-giving is to conduct your own not-so-scientific survey. Ask family and friends to tell you about the best and worst gifts they ever received. Not only will you learn what kinds of gifts truly touched or perhaps profoundly hurt them; if you really listen, you will also develop a better understanding of their core values, love languages, and attachment styles. These conversations can help deepen your relationships, which is a gift in itself.

It’s the thought that counts. Really.

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